This weekend I had multiple conversations with people who are literally creating barriers that block love by creating “boundaries” that are actually protection walls around their hearts. Healthy boundaries are essential to protect ourselves from people who have yet to work through their own fear and use abusive behavior to avoid feeling powerless, emotional vampires with a bottomless appetite for other people’s light energy.
At first shocked, looking in the mirror recognizing my own blocks to love and scared by how familiar and connected to these their 3 different scenarios I felt. To see clearly all the situations where I too had worked hard to build a wall around myself to not feel vulnerable, to not have to feel such strong love emotions that I could possibly get hurt. I allowed myself a moment to feel the sadness of cheating myself of the sweetness, joy, passion and tenderness I actually wanted and deserved. But as you know, I love perceived obstacles that become the teacher, and am excited by every opportunity to make a major shift in my life. Up until today being vulnerable has been very hard for me; Opening up and letting people see that I actually have feelings and needs has been terrifying. As the out of necessity self trained, “Make it happen for yourself, no one is coming baby”. A pattern of adult behavior that was based on survival months 0-6 that was no longer serving me and had actually become my greatest obstacle to joy and pleasure.
When discussing my self realization with @royazara she offered to lend me @tchaikotagline for this growing revolution RADICAL VULNERABILITY
So I started yesterday to behave like a pre-shoulded kid and tell people how I really feel about them and what I need from them, even opening myself to the perceived threat of rejection. I suggest you do the same. “I miss you so much!”
“I really want to see you”
“Can we have a Play date?”
“I love you a lot!!!”